How to spice up your marriage
Early in the marriage most couples find that they have fun learning more and more about the person to whom they promised they would spend the rest of their life. In the beginning there is passion and intimacy but as the years roll on this journey moves from steamy to lukewarm and even worse – to an ice cold stage.
Thankfully there are several ways to spice up your marriage without adding conditions that will make one spouse or the other uncomfortable. Too many marriage break up because of a lack of intimacy. For the woman this may mean more meaningful conversations and opening up to feelings and for the man this definitely corresponds to a more physical relationship.
While privacy can mean different things to the opposite sex, they can be mutually satisfying and lead to a positive way to spice up your marriage. Sometimes the root of the problem is redundancy. There are many different ways to experience marital intimacy, but too often couples fall into a rut, going back to the same time and duration of the routine again. A simple variation on a familiar theme can help effectively
An alternative that is well appreciated by women is a burning candle before the conversation to bed when the two of you enter the stress of the day and the kids and relax for a while with each other. Another variation linked to attract the man is seductive lingerie. This garment helps make the woman feel more attractive and exciting the more visual male
Another variation on a familiar theme is to add music to the events of the evening, candlelight or even a red bulb in the lamp in the room. Remember that as a married couple, it is not the destination that counts. When married couples engage in physical activity without leading to reports, it may seem almost illegal! You can give your partner the gift of a massage all over with lotion or heavy cream to help them relax after a long day.
Role playing is another popular way to spice up your relationship. Some couples find that dress in a particular role, as a cowboy, increases the excitement. At other times, you may want to act on the fantasy boss-secretary. You can start the role-play in the morning before the boss goes to work and end up in the evening after the kids are in bed
Role playing can also be taken outside the home. Go out on a date with your husband as an alternate personality. Dress differently, meet them at a restaurant and end the night at a hotel
Do something for your spouse that you wouldn’t normally do, just because you love them. Add a note to their lunch or briefcase; bring home flowers; get an unexpected gift
Leave a note in the bathroom or the computer just to let them know you are thinking of them. Everyone likes to know they are important to their spouse!
Do something thoughtful that you know they’ll appreciate whether it’s taking out the garbage, doing the grocery shopping, cooking a meal or giving them time away from the kids. The most important part of spicing up your marriage though is to make it a priority
Make time for intimacy. As busy as you might be, making love to your spouse is a top priority in the marriage. Studies show that humans need touch every day to keep their immune systems working well and to keep depression at bay. What better way to touch your spouse than with a spicy romantic interlude!
Early in the marriage most couples find that they have fun learning more and more about the person to whom they promised they would spend the rest of their life. In the beginning there is passion and intimacy but as the years roll on this journey moves from steamy to lukewarm and even worse – to an ice cold stage.
Thankfully there are several ways to spice up your marriage without adding conditions that will make one spouse or the other uncomfortable. Too many marriage break up because of a lack of intimacy. For the woman this may mean more meaningful conversations and opening up to feelings and for the man this definitely corresponds to a more physical relationship.
While privacy can mean different things to the opposite sex, they can be mutually satisfying and lead to a positive way to spice up your marriage. Sometimes the root of the problem is redundancy. There are many different ways to experience marital intimacy, but too often couples fall into a rut, going back to the same time and duration of the routine again. A simple variation on a familiar theme can help effectively
An alternative that is well appreciated by women is a burning candle before the conversation to bed when the two of you enter the stress of the day and the kids and relax for a while with each other. Another variation linked to attract the man is seductive lingerie. This garment helps make the woman feel more attractive and exciting the more visual male
Another variation on a familiar theme is to add music to the events of the evening, candlelight or even a red bulb in the lamp in the room. Remember that as a married couple, it is not the destination that counts. When married couples engage in physical activity without leading to reports, it may seem almost illegal! You can give your partner the gift of a massage all over with lotion or heavy cream to help them relax after a long day.
Role playing is another popular way to spice up your relationship. Some couples find that dress in a particular role, as a cowboy, increases the excitement. At other times, you may want to act on the fantasy boss-secretary. You can start the role-play in the morning before the boss goes to work and end up in the evening after the kids are in bed
Role playing can also be taken outside the home. Go out on a date with your husband as an alternate personality. Dress differently, meet them at a restaurant and end the night at a hotel
Do something for your spouse that you wouldn’t normally do, just because you love them. Add a note to their lunch or briefcase; bring home flowers; get an unexpected gift
Leave a note in the bathroom or the computer just to let them know you are thinking of them. Everyone likes to know they are important to their spouse!
Do something thoughtful that you know they’ll appreciate whether it’s taking out the garbage, doing the grocery shopping, cooking a meal or giving them time away from the kids. The most important part of spicing up your marriage though is to make it a priority
Make time for intimacy. As busy as you might be, making love to your spouse is a top priority in the marriage. Studies show that humans need touch every day to keep their immune systems working well and to keep depression at bay. What better way to touch your spouse than with a spicy romantic interlude!
